Why Can't We Be Friends?

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Girls Women Females in general are vicious. I would know.

I've never understood why the female population feels the need to tear each other down. Putting your sister down makes you look incredibly insecure and rude.

Before you think I'm just lecturing women, know that I realize men are jerks to each other too. But women will hit you where it hurts. I've seen "friends" zero in on each other insecurities, and it leaves me wondering why anyone would keep these friends around in the first place.

I've been told I'm too sensitive. At least I'm considerate of other people's feelings.

That's not to say I've never been involved in your typical early teen catty friendships, because I definitely have. Incidentally, I'm not friends with anyone from that kind of friendship now if that's any inclination of change.

I'm sure that a lot of this girl on girl meanness stems from insecurities. Once you are secure in yourself, you no long need to compare yourself to other girls. The competition is nonexistent. Crazy things start happening. You start rooting for girls. Even girls you don't know that well. You want to see people succeed, and you can appreciate another person's talents.

So how does one become secure in themselves? Assuming we are Christians, our security is in Christ. Psalm 16:8 says it like this, "I have set the Lord always before me: because he is at my right hand, I shall not be moved." Ephesians 1:13 says, "In whom ye also trusted, after that ye heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation: in whom also after that ye believed, ye were sealed with that holy Spirit of promise," 

Sounds pretty secure to me.

If I could encourage you to do anything, it would be this: be the change. You can set off an amazing ripple effect if you're willing to change.

Stay classy,

Jessie