Girls

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"You, with your words like knives and swords and weapons that you use against me
You have knocked me off my feet again got me feeling like I'm nothing
You, with your voice like nails on a chalkboard, calling me out when I'm wounded
You, pickin' on the weaker man

Well, you can take me down with just one single blow
But you don't know what you don't know

Someday I'll be living in a big old city
And all you're ever gonna be is mean
Someday I'll be big enough so you can't hit me
And all you're ever gonna be is mean

Why you gotta be so mean?"

-From Taylor Swift's Mean



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I have come to the realization that I need female beings in my life. I have sworn this wasn't true. When I was younger, I was a Tomboy, and therefore had no interest hanging out with girls who acted like girls. Then after I got saved, I encountered several mean (and nice!) girls. As I step back and look at the larger picture, I see that it was only a few mean people overshadowing the good ones. 

This week, I visited a friend I haven't seen in ages. It was really awesome. She reminded me that once upon a time, I did have good friends that are girls. And yes, we would eat at each other, but we were never overly malicious. Overall, the visit was very encouraging as we caught up. I might visit more old friends. (Maybe. I'm trying not to rush everything or scare them.) 



Earlier this week, I was in a store looking for Micah a Birthday gift. I saw a young woman at the front counter and immediately thought, "Oh great. There's a girl there. She's probably mean and rude. Why couldn't there have been a guy?" (It was the type of store that guys were known for being really helpful and enthusiastic.) I searched around for the gift, but couldn't find it anywhere. Finally, I got up the nerve and asked this young woman if she knew if the store carried it, and SURPRISE- she was helpful and NICE. Not only that, but we ended up chatting a while about our men. (She's getting married also.) Since then, I have contemplated going back to this store to just chat with this nice young lady. 


This isn't to say I don't have friends that are girls at this particular point in my life. But, I feel that I have been putting up walls because I got hurt in the past. That isn't fair to any of the girls in my life. School, Mich, and just plain life has kind of made me push my girlfriends off to the back burner in my life. That's really no excuse, I know. I still am not going to let one girlfriend or a gaggle of girls get me sidetrack from my priorities (not to mention it's just creepy when women let their girlfriends take a higher place than their significant other), but I think I can at least have healthy God-honoring friendships with the people I interact with.


So this week, I have realized that not all women are catty and mean (truly, I don't think the majority are this way), and that I really enjoyed fellowshipping with other women. I might make a habit of it. :)

Jessica Wynn

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3 Thoughts:

Getting married also? Is there something you would like to tell me ;) ha ha! I loves you Jess! =D

Jes said...

Shhhh it's a secret! Love ya Shell! :-D

Lol =)

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